I have a post it on my desk with the current words of advice to myself - Don't feel attacked. Notice, it doesn't say ignore attacks or avoid them. Sometimes that is good advice. But, feeling attacked leads me into emotional defensiveness, which is often not the best response. If I slow down enough to stop the auto reaction, I can think about how I choose to respond as my more authentic self.
I love this, thank you for sharing! I’ve been thinking about Brené Brown a lot and her description of when we “armor up.” I’m not sure how to stand my ground without feeling defensive but I think it is possible!
I have a post it on my desk with the current words of advice to myself - Don't feel attacked. Notice, it doesn't say ignore attacks or avoid them. Sometimes that is good advice. But, feeling attacked leads me into emotional defensiveness, which is often not the best response. If I slow down enough to stop the auto reaction, I can think about how I choose to respond as my more authentic self.
I love this, thank you for sharing! I’ve been thinking about Brené Brown a lot and her description of when we “armor up.” I’m not sure how to stand my ground without feeling defensive but I think it is possible!