There's an odd dichotomy that we turn everything of men into a sexual desire (the male gaze even) and yet it feels we deny women the opportunity let alone the ability to be equally desirous. I think this comes through, however unintended, in your selection of images. All naked women, but no men.
Yet this is just puritanical in nature because watch women with romance novels (literally porno graphy) or photo calendars of firefighters.
I think this is a very valid perspective! There’s a lot of shame involved on both sides- men being seen as predatory, women seen as tempestuous, etc. It’s a lot to unpack! Hopefully the more conversations we have the more we can understand all of the layers and each other.
What if your voice was so steady, so unshakable that the very uttering of your desire caused a perceivable shift. I love this line, because it really is so important, that even how we speak to ourselves and speak of what we desire with conviction, with self-belief.
Thank you for sharing, Tamzin! It's always interesting to hear what resonates with different people. I have a 7 month old and right now his voice is literally the only tool he has to work with to make his environment shift. It's been such a joy to listen to him as he learns to exercise his vocal chords- from laughing to whining, crying, screaming, it's a powerful tool and one I think we often forget to use as adults!
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There's an odd dichotomy that we turn everything of men into a sexual desire (the male gaze even) and yet it feels we deny women the opportunity let alone the ability to be equally desirous. I think this comes through, however unintended, in your selection of images. All naked women, but no men.
Yet this is just puritanical in nature because watch women with romance novels (literally porno graphy) or photo calendars of firefighters.
I think this is a very valid perspective! There’s a lot of shame involved on both sides- men being seen as predatory, women seen as tempestuous, etc. It’s a lot to unpack! Hopefully the more conversations we have the more we can understand all of the layers and each other.
Thanks for reading and commenting!
What if your voice was so steady, so unshakable that the very uttering of your desire caused a perceivable shift. I love this line, because it really is so important, that even how we speak to ourselves and speak of what we desire with conviction, with self-belief.
Thank you for sharing, Tamzin! It's always interesting to hear what resonates with different people. I have a 7 month old and right now his voice is literally the only tool he has to work with to make his environment shift. It's been such a joy to listen to him as he learns to exercise his vocal chords- from laughing to whining, crying, screaming, it's a powerful tool and one I think we often forget to use as adults!
Thanks for commenting and thanks for being here! <3